If you have ever felt that something is such a pain in the ass, in most cases, it means that what you feel so doing is something that is significantly important for you. It meets what you value the most, yet it does not come with the range of the necessary effort you can make to achieve what you should be able to get out of it. This is important, because you really want/need the thing you get from this, but what you can put into to achieve this does not fulfill the requirement. In other ways, you feel like it is such a pain in the ass because you need to do more than you can to get the certain result, which is painful.
So how to reduce that pain?
As previously said, whether it is paper work, accounting for your business, internal communication or elderly care, the result you are aiming to get MEANS A LOT to you. With the achievement of the paper work, you can finalize your job in decent manner. With the accounting and number work, you can figure out how your business is going, and without it, you are just doing what you want to do. With your care for your senior family members, you can truly show your love in the way it literally make them happy, who you care for. You can say the same thing when you feel like someone is such a pain in the ass. You expect something easier when working with that person, but in the reality it involves something that causes you more work, with is again, a little painful. But first you need to understand that you are at this stage feeling so only because the person MEANS A LOT to you. It he/she is nobody for you, you would not bother feeling so from the beginning. So it is the balance how much energy you can spend for the things/people you care a lot.
Your “pain in the ass” feelings pile up as sadness.
Understanding that you actually care what you feel like it is such a pain in the ass, the next step is know what it is that actually causing you to feel so. In most cases, it is from sad memories or experiences of your own trying to achieve the goal around the “pain in the ass” thing but being ended up taking far more energy than you expected. For example, you have many project experiences only by yourself. By trying more and more, you automatically have more and more mistaking and failure experiences. Without properly caring those experiences by looking back and analyzing, you will probably end up feeling like you are not good at it because it is such a pain in the ass to prepare, plan and execute all on your own. But the trap is that it is only how you feel it, and is just in your world. It might not be the same in the reality.
Look back, think, analyze before another attempt.
When you feel too tired of dealing with something/someone, let’s look back, think about the last time you dealt with the same thing, analyze your approach and outcome before you make another attempt. You definitely need this thinking stage not just because it is important for you but because by knowing more about what you really want, you will be able to understand about yourself, what means to you, what is special about this, and what it is that is making you happy. Get serious about it, and learn from each step of these with joy. By really emptying your brain full of sad experiences, you will be able to get back to the first point with pure mind.
“What is a pain in the ass, is, what is important for you.”
I repeat this so that feeling like this would not trigger you to act negatively about what you originally wanted. What is making you feel so is the accumulated feelings from the past failure and is not really present. With proper care of your experiences, you will gain meaningful learnings and energy to move forward. There is no need to be dragged back by the past. Face it, learn from it, analyze it and you are good to go again.